Basic instinct is one of the strongest desires that human has. Its shape and our taste have not changed after centuries although some of us are using new toys to take the pleasure more or are using tools to control it. I think now you know what I am talking about. Yes the basic instinct is still tempting and we are not yet independent of it because it is part of our nature. I agree we can’t do much about it but also eating is one of our basic needs but it has changed a lot. But this one has not and if you don’t believe me just pay a visit to Sex Museum in Amsterdam.
All right let's back to the subject again. How far are we ready to go to response to this strong desire? Of course one of the ways or the most common one is having relationship with some one else. Yes that is right according to our nature and it is the healthy one. But there is a question mark over there. Well I am always asking myself is that the only reason for starting a relationship or there are more reasons for beginning a relationship with some one else. If I am going for a relationship shall I hide it? Shall I inform all my friends about it? How serious might the relationship get?
Did you get me? Ok, let me just say my question on the other words. Is responding to our basic instinct the aim of the relationship or having a good healthy relationship will response to the Basic Instinct and we will be satisfied? And if the answer is Yes, then do I have to tell the others or it would be better to hide it?
I think apart from our basic instincts we have much stronger emotions such as love that we have to response to them as well. I am sure a relationship on the basis of our Basic Instinct is not able of responding to our higher needs and it has got nothing else to offer us. We would feel cheap in these type of relationships because it just responses to our basic need and it doesn't offer anything else. These relationships do not last long and we usually recall them with regret. We usually don't talk about it with others and we hide it. Even we don’t inform our closest friends about it. Because the other side of the relationship might not be our type too as he or she is also following his or her basic instinct too. Here the old story might repeat and our feelings might hurt. It is so difficult to recover from this type of relationships as we exchange our great feeling and dignity with the basic instinct. We do not have much to share with the partner except when we get to the point of responding the basic instinct. On the other hand the only thing in common is Basic Instinct.
In contrast, there are other types of relationships that response to emotions such as love. These types of relationships of course have potential of responding to our basic instinct but they offer more than that. They offer us companion, courage, trust, respect, love, support, share and compromise. We never regret them and if they do don’t last long for some reason we just regret why it didn't last. They are sweet and we are proud of that. We don't hide them and they usually end up into long friendship or even more such as marriage which is a kind of formal announcement. To have such a relationship we need to spend more time and be patient.
Bottom line, those who starts a relationship in response to their basic instinct, will be dependent forever because they just are at the first stage. The old story will repeat for them all the time. They are afraid of talking about it with their friends or even they upset their friends. Having a relationship is normal and every one should have a healthy one. But before starting a one ask yourself what exactly you are looking for and what’s the price? If you are not sure about it just have a nice conversation with your friends about it. I am sure they will understand you and your needs and they will do their best to help you!
All right let's back to the subject again. How far are we ready to go to response to this strong desire? Of course one of the ways or the most common one is having relationship with some one else. Yes that is right according to our nature and it is the healthy one. But there is a question mark over there. Well I am always asking myself is that the only reason for starting a relationship or there are more reasons for beginning a relationship with some one else. If I am going for a relationship shall I hide it? Shall I inform all my friends about it? How serious might the relationship get?
Did you get me? Ok, let me just say my question on the other words. Is responding to our basic instinct the aim of the relationship or having a good healthy relationship will response to the Basic Instinct and we will be satisfied? And if the answer is Yes, then do I have to tell the others or it would be better to hide it?
I think apart from our basic instincts we have much stronger emotions such as love that we have to response to them as well. I am sure a relationship on the basis of our Basic Instinct is not able of responding to our higher needs and it has got nothing else to offer us. We would feel cheap in these type of relationships because it just responses to our basic need and it doesn't offer anything else. These relationships do not last long and we usually recall them with regret. We usually don't talk about it with others and we hide it. Even we don’t inform our closest friends about it. Because the other side of the relationship might not be our type too as he or she is also following his or her basic instinct too. Here the old story might repeat and our feelings might hurt. It is so difficult to recover from this type of relationships as we exchange our great feeling and dignity with the basic instinct. We do not have much to share with the partner except when we get to the point of responding the basic instinct. On the other hand the only thing in common is Basic Instinct.
In contrast, there are other types of relationships that response to emotions such as love. These types of relationships of course have potential of responding to our basic instinct but they offer more than that. They offer us companion, courage, trust, respect, love, support, share and compromise. We never regret them and if they do don’t last long for some reason we just regret why it didn't last. They are sweet and we are proud of that. We don't hide them and they usually end up into long friendship or even more such as marriage which is a kind of formal announcement. To have such a relationship we need to spend more time and be patient.
Bottom line, those who starts a relationship in response to their basic instinct, will be dependent forever because they just are at the first stage. The old story will repeat for them all the time. They are afraid of talking about it with their friends or even they upset their friends. Having a relationship is normal and every one should have a healthy one. But before starting a one ask yourself what exactly you are looking for and what’s the price? If you are not sure about it just have a nice conversation with your friends about it. I am sure they will understand you and your needs and they will do their best to help you!
